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The Art of Loving is helping a new sex-positive online magazine find a Vancouver editor. This person will play a key role in the Vancouver sex scene. The online magazine and social networking site is for Canada’s sex educators, therapists, journalists, activists, artists, and regular folks who are really into sex. Click here for more info!

Were you all aware that we have a Rental Program for all of our DVD’s (and more)?  Come in store to set up an account and choose from a wide variety of couple friendly erotica or educational DVDs. You will be able to check out each DVD for 2 nights (longer if you want to pay a little more) for only $6.00! 

The Art of Loving seeks couples in good physical shape who are comfortable being filmed for sex-positive educational videos.

We are interested in working with couples of all legal ages, ethnicity, and sexual orientation.

We are looking for lovers who are enthusiastic about love making on camera. The tutorial topics will be explicit and range from the art of kissing, erotic massage, oral sex, g-spot and ejaculation, anal play, and more. Women who can ejaculate are most encouraged to reply. No memorizing of scripts or dialogue will be required.

We will respect your boundaries and limits. No experience is required.

Interested couples please email The Art of Loving co-owner Vera Zyla.

"Oh my God, that feels so fucking good," she gasps, her words stiffening my erection further. Then she lets out another raw cry of enjoyment as I start to fingerfuck her, my fingers skillfully urging overwhelming sensations of pleasure from her G-spot and my thumb circle-flicking her wet, swollen clit. The curtains are drawn, but a ray of afternoon sunlight dances over us and the scattered clothes on the floor while we indulge her lust to the full. The musky scent of her arousal and the sound of her wetness pervades the room, just as it should be. This is her time. It's time for her to live out the decadent delight of being a self-indulgent diva, having her body worshipped by me with pure, unhurried, raw sensuality. When I masturbate to this fantasy and bring myself off, my whole body shakes, and the best part is that it's only days away from becoming reality.

Thank you for the opportunity to share, and I hope you and your readers enjoy my fantasy. Keep up the good work. Happy Masturbation Month!

Cheers,

David

Want a genuinely fun part time job?

If you’re a sex positive, fun loving person who would enjoy educating women & men about the latest sex toys, become an Art of Loving Home Party Rep! The Art of Loving has been a trusted name in the sensual products market since our inception five years ago. Home party, pleasure party, sex toy party, or dare we say, fuckerware party; one thing is for sure: these events are becoming increasingly popular and a playful way for friends to socialize. We are looking for energetic and personable people who have their own vehicle. We will train you on how to deliver a home party, help familiarize you with products and attend at least your first party with you. You receive a commission of 20% or 25% of all sales made at your party depending on whether you use one of our kits or purchase your own. For more details contact info@artofloving.ca

Sex meets spirituality in tantra's healing bliss

By Pieta Woolley

Despite gusts of wind that downed trees and knocked out power in many neighbourhoods, the Art of Loving’s Tantric Massage on Women class attracted a full house the evening of January 14. It’s obviously a hot topic. As the storm blustered outside, nine single men and two male-female couples sat on folding chairs and listened to store co-owner Vera Zyla describe how to create an erotic ceremony for women.

“You are the erotic nurturer,” Zyla said, after telling the group members to turn off their cellphones. “When we’re in long-term relationships, sex can become habitual, and it can become boring. What this ceremony offers is variety.”

The audience was dead silent as Zyla described how a woman’s partner should reserve a time with no distractions, make a greeting area with refreshments, and create a comfortable massage space outside the bedroom. Build an altar to honour one’s beloved. Try role-play. Be François the masseuse from France, she suggested. Use usic and pools of soft light to set the mood. Run a bath.

Zyla’s most basic message of the evening was about simply paying attention to the sexual embrace. It’s a noble pursuit, but it doesn’t explicitly address the broader goals of tantra—bonding with the energy of the universe through union with another being. As Sting—tantra’s dubious spokesperson—told a Guardian newspaper reporter, it’s about a journey, “not fucking for eight hours”. Hinduism, Buddhism, and other religions from South and East Asia note that sex has three purposes: procreation, pleasure, and liberation. Typically, tantric sex is about liberation, bliss at union with the divine through spiritual sex.

In Vancouver, however, more than a third of residents told the 2001 Census they had no religion. Can you have true tantric sex without religion?

Absolutely, according to Elfi Dillon-Shaw, a bodywork instructor with the Haven Institute for Professional Training on Gabriola Island.

“Everybody has a personal spirituality,” she told the Straight in a phone interview from the institute. “People can explore their sexuality in the sense of bringing their body and heart together. Tantra is about bringing sex back to the spirit, healing that rift. To me, spirituality is about how you want to live on the planet.”

At the Haven, Dillon-Shaw teaches sacred sexuality to couples of all ages. Growing up Catholic in Bavaria, she was flummoxed by the Old World cultural schism between body and spirit. Even in North America, she noted, that split persists. Tantric sex, she said, is a way to heal that.

Dillon-Shaw came to sacred sexuality in her mid 30s. After immigrating to Canada, she was swept up in the sexual-liberation movement of the 1970s, a time she remembers fondly. Even then, she said, “I was not really present in my own body. I didn’t feel the deep pleasure I’ve come to know now.”

She credits that shift not with a defined religion, but with inner reflection brought to her through her sexual encounters. Even in a postreligious age, she said, people are increasingly interested in a deeper sexuality. But, as Zyla said, busyness detracts from that.

“What you pay attention to, your energy flows there,” Dillon-Shaw said. “If you devote your attention to a frantic lifestyle, your energy goes there. Some say they want a more erotic life, but they don’t create it. A person has to want it.”

As a first step, Dillon-Shaw suggested taking some deep breaths, and really looking at your partner for three whole seconds. Be completely present in the moment. Sex, she said, is both a gift and what makes us human. It’s worth slowing down for.

As Zyla suggests, tantra starts by simply making the time and honouring one’s partner. As a spiritual path, the journey couldn’t be sweeter.

straight.com/article

 

Featured in Macleans.ca and many other Canadian news outlets:

New trend in bachelorette parties includes "oral pleasure" education
by Terri Theodore

VANCOUVER (CP) July 2007 - There's an emerging trend in bachelorette parties that is far from a tea-and-crumpets celebration.

In fact, the only hot tea involved is as a training prop in an educational session in Vera Zyla's oral pleasure seminar.

More and more women are booking private, pre-wedding seminars through Zyla's Vancouver store, The Art of Loving, to learn the how-tos of oral sex, having a good orgasm and stripping for your lover.

She has hosted dozens of parties for women ranging from virgins to the more experienced.

The course on oral sex techniques seems to be one of the most popular.

"I believe it's because there are a number of challenges that are presented," she said.

"I ask these women in class...'Why do you think women find it so challenging,' and they start sharing."

Zyla said the women are simply looking for strategies to be better at it and to add it to their repertoire, hoping to use it to prolong a marriage.

Featured in Macleans.ca and many other Canadian news outlets:

New trend in bachelorette parties includes "oral pleasure" education
by Terri Theodore

VANCOUVER (CP) July 2007 - There's an emerging trend in bachelorette parties that is far from a tea-and-crumpets celebration.

In fact, the only hot tea involved is as a training prop in an educational session in Vera Zyla's oral pleasure seminar.

More and more women are booking private, pre-wedding seminars through Zyla's Vancouver store, The Art of Loving, to learn the how-tos of oral sex, having a good orgasm and stripping for your lover.

She has hosted dozens of parties for women ranging from virgins to the more experienced.

The course on oral sex techniques seems to be one of the most popular.

"I believe it's because there are a number of challenges that are presented," she said.

"I ask these women in class...'Why do you think women find it so challenging,' and they start sharing."

Zyla said the women are simply looking for strategies to be better at it and to add it to their repertoire, hoping to use it to prolong a marriage.

"If you have meat and potatoes for dinner every night, you're going to get bored of that. If you make sex the same way day in, day out it's going to get predictable. You need to mix it up."

Zyla said at first, some women are nervous about attending, but a few quips from the crowd can make the night hilarious.

"They tend to turn it into a little wine and cheese thing...everybody gets loosened up. It's a really fun evening."

Anna Von Frances, 28, took a similar oral sex education seminar in Toronto and thinks more women should do the same.

"It's fun to get together with your girlfriends and laugh about a taboo subject, then find out it's not all that taboo."

She said the course helped her get familiar with the male anatomy.

"I don't think that women really get any proper education about that kind of stuff," she said. "You don't ask your mom about how to give a great blow job."

Von Frances admitted she was nervous about sitting in a room with a bunch of her girlfriends learning to put a condom-clad banana in her mouth.

But she said it was nothing like that.

"(The instructor) did a lot of hand-outs about where everything's located on a man's member, how sensitive it really is."

"It was a lot of myth busting."

Zyla demonstrates to her classes with a prop and notes accessories women can buy or make at home.

"For example they could make a hot drink and put it in a thermos...then leave the hot liquid in your mouth, so your mouth is really toasty warm."

Zyla said a bridesmaid recently organized a oral sex seminar for a virgin bride.

"She said 'Eww I'm not doing that,' and all her friends said 'Oh yes you are," she laughed.

Von Frances says the course left her "super empowered" and improved her sex life "100 per cent."

"I'm sure if you interviewed my boyfriend he would say he's glad I did it."

She believes women like the courses because it opens communication with their lover.

Zyla said women outnumber men 10 to one at the 20 or so sex education seminars she holds at her store.

"I think women are somewhat more open to better their skills, they talk openly more about it," she said. "There's a desire to want to please their lover and offer something delicious."

The Art of Loving seeks couples in good physical shape who are comfortable being filmed for sex-positive educational videos.

We are interested in working with couples of all legal ages, ethnicity, and sexual orientation.

We are looking for lovers who are enthusiastic about love making on camera. The tutorial topics will be explicit and range from the art of kissing, erotic massage, oral sex, g-spot and ejaculation, anal play, and more. Women who can ejaculate are most encouraged to reply. No memorizing of scripts or dialogue will be required.

We will respect your boundaries and limits. No experience is required.

Interested couples please email The Art of Loving co-owner Vera Zyla.

Surprise your husband with a sexy gift! The Art of Loving and photographic artist Horst Siegler are offering new brides and married women a hot new way to celebrate the sensuality of marriage.

You can take this unique opportunity to have some more fun in your cherished wedding dress by wearing it in a photo shoot with Horst Siegler, a professional photographer who specializes in sensual and erotic photography. His portraits are artistically beautiful, with erotic nuances and dramatic sensuality.

Horst Siegler’s Work

Siegler has been a commercial photographer for over 20 years. His love and respect for the female form allow him to capture the sensual beauty of any woman, producing photographs that are often very erotic while remaining classy and tasteful.

The Art of Loving has been supporting Siegler’s work for over 3 years. His artwork is regularly on display and for sale at the store, and he is also an instructor in the popular Art of Loving seminar series, sharing his photographic expertise in an erotic photography class.

The Details

Wedding dress photos can be done in a commercial studio for a fee of $400 or at your home for $500. After the shoot, you get on a disk low res copies of the shots  to make your selection. You choose which image you want to be the main image (8x12 or 12x18) and up to four little images (as seen in the samples below). You also customize the text that will be printed on the final piece.

Booking a Shoot

Photo shoots are booked through The Art of Loving. Contact us at 604-742-9988 or info@theartofloving.ca.

The Art of Loving is starting an exciting new service, where a professional photographer takes pictures of you in your wedding finery, with a twist! The images are very sexy and taken in various stages of undress or with some lingerie showing. This is a great oppourtunity to get some more milage out of that wonderful gown, and makes a great gift for your mate. You don't need to be a new bride, get that dress out of the attic and revisit the excitement of wearing that special dress!

Before we can launch the service, we need some sample images, and this is where you come in! You bring the wedding gown and the smiles, we will provide an experienced professional photographer! The images can be taken in his studio or at your home. We will provide you with a disc of all the images. This is completely free to you, all we ask is permission to use some of the images in our promotional material.

Please contact vera@theartofloving.ca with your contact details, and she will discuss this exciting prospect with you.

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